Out and
outstanding
by
Denny Meyer |
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On
Thursday Jan 13, Time.com posted an article about
Daniel Hernandez, one of the Tucson heroes cited by
President Obama in his memorial speech the day before.
Hernandez ran toward Congresswoman Giffords moments
after she was shot in the head, in an attempted
assassination, and held her up to prevent her choking on
her own blood, comforted her and used his EMT training
until help arrived, he then accompanied her in the
ambulance. He’d only been working for Giffords for
five
days when he volunteered to help at her “Streetcorner
Congress.” About three quarters of the way through the
article, Time notes that Hernandez is gay. At
age 20, Hernandez is not in the closet; what 20 year old
is these days? He is a member of the Tucson LGBT
Commission, according to Time, and is apparently
well known locally in the LGBT community.
Yet, a blogosphere controversy
erupted with some saying that it was wrong to out
him nationally, others saying that the fact that
he's gay got him singled out for special attention
or that his sexual orientation is irrelevant to the
story, and yet others saying that it is in fact
important to note that he's gay in order to counter
discriminatory stereotypes about gay people. A
good way to test these opinions is to change the
identity to black or Jewish or Bangladeshi and see
of any of that sounds prejudiced or relevant to
mention or not. If you are not generally
prejudiced against those different from yourself,
there seems little difference in relevance when you
change the identity in the case of this story.
So, mentioning that Hernandez happens to be gay is
just an interesting fact about this hero, no
different than the fact that he also happens to be a
Hispanic American. We want to know about our
heroes and its interesting to note how ordinary they
can be.
Thirty years ago another
ordinary gay hero put himself in the way of another
assassination attempt; a Marine, Vietnam Veteran, and
Purple Heart recipient named Oliver Sipple
prevented some lunatic from killing President
Ford. At that time, it was a major scandal
for him to have been outed in the news stories about
him. Today, we have
progressed to the point where it's simply an
interesting fact along with what our hero might have
had for breakfast that day.
Daniel Hernandez did not
become a hero because he's Hispanic and gay, he ran
'towards' danger like any ordinary hero because he
wanted to help and happened to know what he was
doing.
What controversy there is
seems to be between those bigots who simply cannot
stand seeing any minority praised, and members of a
minority who can't stand a member of their group
standing out and consequently stirring up the
resentment of bigots. Ahh diversity!
Both groups seem stuck in the prejudices of the
past.
This brings us to discussing how
today's young patriotic gay and lesbian volunteers
ought to conduct themselves now that they will be
able to be out in our armed forces. One view
would be that just because they can be out does not
mean that they should be out. Along with that
is the view that if they are out they should not be
outstanding because it "might cause resentment."
If that sounds familiar, it should; it was what was
told to blacks, and women, and Jews.
I cannot imagine telling today's young lesbian and
gay patriotic volunteers to Not Stand Out. They
have never been in the closet, and we didn't do this
long battle for our rights just to tell them to go
hide in the closet because otherwise some damn bigot
MIGHT resent them.
Imagine people having advised Martin Luther King,
Jr. and Barack Obama, "Don’t make trouble by
standing out, it will only stir up resentment." It
is because of them that young Americans today,
regardless of race or ethnicity, know that they can
and should be outstanding because they can become
whatever they want without limit. I do not have to
imagine Leonard Matlovich and Dan Choi being told
that. They were told that…. by people who
resented them standing out. If they'd paid the
slightest attention to that, the victorious repeal of DADT might never have happened.
My advice to today's young
patriotic out gay and lesbian volunteers is:
If you want to stand out, be Outstanding.
When I joined up in 1968, I
was advised by stuffy old Jewish relatives, "Don’t
make a spectacle of yourself, people will resent a
Jew standing out …" If I'd listened to that
crap, I’d never have been among the first in Admiral
Zumwalt's New Navy to make E-5 in
under 4 years, and I'd certainly never have become a
Sgt. First Class in the highly anti-Semetic Army
Reserve that I later found myself in. I stood up for my
subordinates, and I stood out to my superiors. I
didn't get many complaints, except from bigots, and
they were told to shut the hell up by my
subordinates and superiors.
As for the likes of Dan Choi and Katie Miller and
others who courageously stood out and stood up for
their own integrity and our rights, the only
resentment they may encounter when returning to
serve our nation is if they turn out to be perfectly
ordinary and not meet their troop's expectations of
outstanding leadership. Not bloody likely; they are
the finest examples and role models our young patriots
today could possibly deserve.
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