Sgt
Denny's Rant
Summer
Musings:
Debates on war and marriage, and
leader's sweet summer vacations
Congress
is on summer recess and the themed debate season of
presidential contenders is in full swing. When was
the last time the average working American got to take
off more than a month for a summer vacation?
I think I was 11 years old the last time I got to do
that. In those days, in the 1950s in the far outer
suburbs 60 miles east of the City, a boy could burst
outdoors on a summer dawn and not be seen or heard from
until he was starving at dinnertime and miraculously
reappeared safe and sound after a day on his own.
I rode my Schwinn to the beach and swam in the ocean for
hours, skateboarded (metal roller skates nailed to the
bottom of a board), played Tarzan in the woods (there
were still woods that had not been developed into
housing and malls), had a hotdog lunch at the local soda fountain
shop (I had 25 cents in my pocket and came home with
change), played marbles (scared to death I'd loose my
green cat's eye shooter), and perhaps even flipped
baseball cards with criminal 12 year-old 'card sharks' in
a spider filled-basement (oh dear, what those cards
would be worth today!). There was no schedule of
organized activities, and no ozone layer depletion; just
total freedom, sun, and sea.
My mother
was a Holocaust refugee who'd arrived illegally at Ellis
Island in 1938 without papers, after a seasick passage
in steerage across the North Atlantic in wartime
winter. At first she cleaned toilets as a chambermaid at some dumpy hotel in New Jersey and struggled to
learn English. It was a triumph of her successful
assimilation in the American Dream to have a child who
could have the sort of summers in suburbia that I had,
rather than having to hide from the Gestapo in an attic
for years. Her parents and all but one of her
brothers were murdered in Auschwitz in the 1940s, the
ashes of their bones buried in the snow beneath the
barbed wire in the hell of Eastern Europe.
When I
was twelve she enrolled me in Summer School to learn
typing and speed reading. I didn't like it one
bit, but my ten-year military career in personnel
administration proved she'd been very wise indeed.
In the
summer of 1960, when I was 13, I began marching on picket lines
for Black American civil rights and mowing lawns and
pulling weeds from dawn until dusk. I earned my
own way. By then my parents had divorced and I led
a split-culture lifestyle: working lower middle class with my
mother, and international diplomatic travel with my
father, where we dined with ambassadors, senators,
ministerial mandarins and such in a sumptuous splendor
that made me think of the 'real' people for whose rights
I marched for during the other half of my summers.
Ironically, he was representing post-war refugee
restitution and rights. My only regret is that I
cannot now ask him, in retrospect, whether he realized that
he was creating an activist for the
disenfranchised. So, my 'summer vacations' from
school were interesting, informative, and formative.
Now, some
50 years later, I can only hope and wonder if our
elected officials are spending their taxpayer-paid
summer-long vacations productively. I see swell
news photos of our leaders smiling and waiving to the
cameras from boats and barbeques. There's a war
on, isn't there? Reservists' two-week summer
vacation training time has turned into 18-month tours of
hell in the deserts of the Middle East, from which they
return blown up, blinded, and crippled for life --if they
live. In the summer, it's 140 degrees over there,
and hotter under all that combat gear. It may be
time, this lovely summer vacation-time, for some of
those who sent them there to grow up and at least show a
little respect for their sacrifice. Seeing them in
scenic seaside luxury makes me want to throw up,
frankly.
Last
Thursday there was a gay-themed debate among the
Democratic contenders for the Presidential
nomination. Incredible! Just the fact of
such a debate is a sign of progress. But there's
good news and bad news. On the one hand, every
last one of them agreed that it's time to end the ban on
gay American patriotic volunteers serving openly in
pride in our armed forces. Well, there's a war on,
isn't there? But, sadly, all of the three leading
contenders also agreed that marriage should still be reserved
for straight people. Pardon me for being a bit
obvious here; so, it's OK for us to partake in the
sacrifice of service to our nation in time of war; but,
if we survive combat in the Middle East, we still can't
come home and marry our sweethearts? It just makes
me want to throw up, frankly. Maybe it's time for
some of these would-be leaders to grow up this fine
summer.
Denny
Meyer, Editor, Gay Military Signal
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